How to Cope With Unexpected Death
Coping with the death of a loved one is a difficult thing to go through, especially when it is unexpected. Of course, no one can determine the exact date and time of their passing, but nobody expects infants and young ones to die.
Grief is different when it comes to unexpected death. It is a shock that can render some frozen. This is when it is important for the rest of the family to band together and arrange a memorial service in an instant.
If you are currently in this difficult position, we offer our sympathies. We’ve prepared this useful guide on how to cope with unexpected death to help you out.
Understand what has just happened.
It might not feel real at first, and it might even take you a few days before the reality of it sinks in. Take a few moments to fully absorb and understand what just happened. You might find yourself numb, overwhelmed, and overcome with grief. We recommend staying indoors with loved ones who can look after you.
Once you come to terms with what just happened, it’s time to make decisions. You have hard work and responsibilities ahead of you.
Coordinate with the hospital.
If your loved one met an unfortunate accident, then their body may be in the hospital. You may be asked about organ donation. Consider what the deceased wishes, or make the decision with your family.
While the body is being taken care of, you may have some extra time to coordinate funeral homes and arrangements. This is when you may also choose between cremation or the traditional burial.
Let family and other loved ones know.
This applies particularly if you are the one closest to the deceased. You should take a moment to notify as many people as you can, and then just ask them to pass the message to others. Call on the help of other family members to help you with this task.
The immediate family, relatives, closed friends, and employers or school heads should be notified. For family, it will be best that you break the news to them.
You can even utilize social media to help reach more people in a shorter amount of time. The post can disclose the nature of death, as well as the logistics of the funeral arrangement. Just be sure to limit who can see the post, for privacy and security reasons.
Finalize funeral arrangements.
If you are the spouse or closest of kin, then it is your responsibility to spearhead these arrangements. Think about whether the deceased prefers cremation or burial. If it is the former, you need to find a reputable crematorium. Opt for one that offers a place for the memorial, as well as an urn niche.
A keepsake urn may also be considered for family members who want to store a small portion of the cremated remains. There can be a big, main urn in a niche or at home, and a keepsake urn for personal safekeeping. This is helpful for family members who may be living far.
Remember that you are not alone.
As you go through the emotions and stages of grief, it is important to have your support system. It could be family or your friends. They will help you out and assist you with all the work and responsibilities.
Know as well that they are there to share in your grief. Everyone handles loss differently, but coping with unexpected death is a shared experience. Be comforted by the fact that there are people who support you.